Sunday, August 15, 2010

How to Handle Confrontation

Step 1:-
Honestly evaluate the relationship in question to determine whether the issue is confrontation versus abuse. If you are looking at abuse it would be important to seek outside professional assistance.

Step 2:-
Take the time to create a personal definition of confrontation, include a positive definition of confrontation.

Step 3:-
Honestly assess whether or not you become anxious during a period of confrontation. List you symptoms that occur when you are anxious. Create an affirmation to de-escalate your anxiety but also practice gradual exposure to confrontational situations to increase your tolerance to cope with being in a confrontational situation.

Step 4:-
Rehearse verbally handling confrontation by talking out loud to hear your own voice in response to confrontation. This may work best with a therapist; however, if you have a safe person with whom you can rehearse this can also be helpful.

Step 5:-
Examine your problem solving skills and determine whether or not avoiding confrontation prevents you from problem solving. If so, you may need to add tolerance for confrontation in your problem solving skills set.

Step 6:-
Keep focused on your desired outcome. If avoiding confrontation will keep your from reaching your goal; refocus, and stay on point with focusing on your desired outcome.

Saturday, August 14, 2010

The Lord and the Servant

To give you an idea of the proper relationship between the Lord Jesus and His servants we must return to the origins of the human relationship between masters and their servants.

Since ancient times, the only difference between the servant and the beast of burden that was one reason and one had not. In fact, one servant or slave did not have the free disposal of their own personality and assets. She did not have the slightest right to disclose the same to his personality, let alone cater to their whims.

In those days, there are several ways to impose on people the condition of slaves or servants.The most common were:

One - Through the purchase. Serfs were acquired with a value, like any object, and became the property of those who bought. In this case, are framed the true servants of the Lord Jesus Christ, since they were purchased, not by money but by His precious blood. We can understand better when the apostle Paul says, "For ye are bought with a price. Now therefore glorify God in your body "1 Corinthians 6:20. Also the apostle John says, "Thou art worthy to take the scroll and to open its seals, because you were slain and with your blood you purchased for God out of every tribe and tongue and people and nation and to our God a kingdom and priests: and we shall reign on the earth "Rev. 5.9,10. I mean: the blood of Jesus was the price to get us out of the condition of slaves of hell for the future condition of kings and priests unto God.

Second: With tax policy. In this case, prisoners of war were made slaves.

Third: By birth. Children born to slave parents in the house, legally became automatically slaves. The idea here is that the children of those who have served the Lord Jesus will serve him well. The fact that many children are not also servants of the serfs is because the personality of their parents has not been adequate to the good and faithful servant. When is good and faithful servant, then their children will also be servants, good and faithful.

Fourth: How the refund. If the thief did not have to pay back the stolen and pay the damages, it could be sold as a slave.

Fifth: For lack of fund to pay the debt. The person who had no money to pay his debt was forced to sell their children as slaves or children were then seized by the creditor. The debtor himself bankrupt and his wife and children, usually became slaves of the creditor. The important thing is that the debt had to be paid no matter what sacrifice had to be done for that. The case of the widow who came to the prophet Elisha is an example of this (2 Kings 4). According to the Mosaic law, a Hebrew slave had to work for six years to qualify for their freedom. And then his master was obliged to give some reward for him to start life on their own.

Sixth: By self-sale. A person could sell themselves voluntarily to slavery in order to escape poverty. And yet, after six years, she could redeem himself. In this case, she could not leave empty-handed because his master had to give him some compensation. Many have been proposed to serve the Lord Jesus just to escape the miserable life they live, or lake of eternal fire. However, some time later if you redeem your servitude to the Lord Jesus and seek the law of the world the right to a few crumbs to start living freely.

Seventh: By means of abduction. In the law of Moses, abducting a person and reduce it to slavery was an offense punishable by death. Joseph's brothers were guilty of this crime and, therefore, much feared the consequences.

Whatever the condition of the acquisition of a slave, bought or captive as a prisoner of war, he had no rights, only obligations. However, this included wages or any type of reward. You gave them food, water and time to sleep, just in order to replenish their forces to work daily. At most, it was only to serve. There was no specific time limit of work, he had to be available to serve the Lord each and every moment.

Jesus alone is Lord of those who serve you.

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Did you know that the behavior and style go hand in hand? It's like diet and exercise. At first it is quite difficult but once you get into the habit, since it is no longer a burden to be a hobby. The results are also similar: You become more beautiful and full of charm!

The label may not be a very popular subject but it is extremely important for any woman who wants to be a reference in society. It gives us the benefits of 'good education' which includes, become much more enjoyable.

Learn some tips daily etiquette:

When in an environment where everybody is focused, whether in school, church, gym, cinema, theater, doctor, or anywhere else, always with his cell phone turned off, or in silent mode.

Never forget to use the words 'please', 'excuse me' and 'thank you'.

Always greet people with at least one to smile. Your shyness can literally make her look bad.

Avoid chewing gum - is clumsy (you know that chewing gum is for only one or two minutes, long enough to remove the smell or bad taste in mouth?).

Delays ... lack of control, responsibility and respect to the time of others.

Talk less, avoid criticism, and never talk or laugh loud - it all wears her feminine beauty.

Be lapped not only in their gestures, in his speech, his walk, but mostly on his character as a person as a human being. Be aware of respect, appreciation, limits, rules, dignity, and what is not appropriate.

Once you experiencing this daily habit, you will double the value of a